Guys Let’s Rejuvenate Chivalry


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Sometimes being a gentleman is as simple as carrying the umbrella and not swearing when you speak. Or picking up the tube of lipstick she dropped…… or simply speaking with a civil tongue…..

The high value attributed to being a gentleman has been diminished in recent times, with the need to balance good gentlemanly conduct with respecting a woman’s equality. Many men shy away from traditional “chivalric” gestures, for fear of being labeled a misogynist. That plus the lack of suitable role models to show us how to behave has made true gentlemen increasingly rare.

So let’s start setting examples for our son to follow and our little girls to expect by treating the women in our lives to the treat of chivalry.
1: Walk outside on the sidewalk

The origins of this classic yet underused sign of being a gentleman are fascinating. By keeping her on the inside in earlier times, she would remain under the overhanging second floor balcony, which would prevent a chamber pot from being emptied on her head. It also kept her away from the traffic, while ensuring that any effluent in the open sewers would not be thrown onto her dress by a passing carriage. While sewage is less of an issue today, it is still good form to protect a woman from puddles and traffic. Intelligent women may even understand the chivalry in this gesture. Now that you know, there is no excuse for missing this. You can even impress her with some esoteric trivia if she does mention it.

2: Let her sit down first

In days gone by, it was considered appropriate for a gentleman to pull out a chair for his lady. Nowadays, this is considered a little bit too formal. As a gentlemanly gesture, you should instead ensure that your lady sits down before you do. Remaining standing for that fraction longer is a mark of respect and good manners, even if she doesn’t consciously notice it. Again, this should be done in a non-ostentatious way. Don’t make it too obvious that you are waiting for her to sit down. If you need to buy time, try hanging your coats up while she sits down.


3: Watch your language

A very important point which is increasingly overlooked in the modern world, inappropriate language is not acceptable on a date. A gentleman should pride himself on being erudite and articulate, and be capable of expressing himself without resorting to crude vocabulary. Not only does this demonstrate intelligence, but it also indicates that you have high standards for yourself and for the people you are around. This rule can be extended to include using overly long words that you don’t even understand. Nothing will make you look more foolish than using a malapropism in an attempt to show off.

4: Carry the umbrella

Another excellent gentlemanly gesture: Holding the umbrella to keep a lady dry is a great way to demonstrate your excellent conduct. A gentleman should always be prepared for inclement weather, and a good quality umbrella is an essential tool in your armory. If there is a chance of rain, take the umbrella. If the heavens open, you demonstrate forethought and planning, and show an ability to take care of others. Hold the umbrella above her head, and make sure that she does not get wet. If you are getting wet, you must sacrifice your own comfort as part of your gentlemanly gesture.

5: Walk her home

Walking a lady home is an extremely important component of gentlemanly conduct. It may take you out of your way, but ensuring she gets home safely is your first priority. She will feel safer at the end of the evening if she knows she will be accompanied right to her front door, which will score you big points. You can risk losing those points, however, if you make the terrible mistake of expecting a reward for your efforts. It is her prerogative to decide whether anything happens at the doorstep. If she lingers, that may be an invitation to go for a kiss, but never expect anything to happen.

6 Offer your jacket

When a woman makes the considerable effort of getting dressed for a date, practicality is not always her first consideration. There are occasions when that dress, while dazzling, simply does not provide adequate protection from inclement climactic conditions. If you notice that it is a cold or wet evening, as a gentleman you should immediately offer her your jacket. She may refuse, but be attentive to the fact that she may get colder, and do not be afraid to repeat your offer should the weather worsen. Again, as a gentleman, if you are feeling the cold, grin and bear it. The comfort of your lady is your first priority.

7: Offer your seat

Everyone who has a sense of decency would not fail to offer their seat on a bus or train to an elderly person, or a pregnant lady. However, you can go one step further by offering your seat to your date. This is a good one because it shows that you are putting her welfare ahead of your own. The best way to do this is to stand up before offering your seat, rather than making the offer and then standing up. Try not to be too ostentatious, as she may feel uncomfortable if you inadvertently draw attention to her.

8: At the table, turn off your phone

It is consistently amazing just how many men will interrupt their date in order to take a phone call. This is among the very rudest things you can do to someone, date or not. When you are on a date, your date should be made to feel like she is the most important person in the world to you at that moment. A phone call means that your date cannot interact in the conversation, and is left sitting uncomfortably, waiting for you to finish. As a gentlemanly gesture, switch your phone off, and reply to any missed calls later when you have the time.

9 : Introduce her

Much like taking a call and ignoring her, if you fail to introduce her to someone you bump into, she is left feeling isolated and uncomfortable. A gentleman will always make sure that his date is feeling comfortable, and an important part of this is having the social awareness to introduce her to your friend or acquaintance. All you need do is pause briefly to say her name, and position your body so she is included in the conversation. Even if she says nothing, she will feel more involved and more comfortable.

10: Hold the door

When surveyed, around 90% of women regard this as the No. 1 gentlemanly gesture. It is a very simple one, but makes a woman feel respected. Generally speaking, you should always hold the door for someone entering behind you. Once again, it shows respect for other people, which reflects well on you as a person. An important note to remember is that you should not race your date to get to the door first; this appears try-hard and condescending. As with all these gestures, making them a natural part of your behavior is essential to ensure that your date receives it positively.

Bonus!!!!

*Pay and pump here gas when she uses her vehicle….Fill it up please too. Oil checking that’s you buddy.

*After returning from a night out together, if she sits for a moment wearing those sexy heels she has compromised comfort for to look good for you, kneel down and remove the heels and give her a quick intimate foot massage.

*Help her with the dishes. Automatic dishwasher…still not off the hook ..help her put them away.

*Never ever let her go out in the morning and warm up a cold vehicle, or get into a hot one. You YOU take the keys and bring the vehicle up to a comfortable climate level.

*Light her cigarette ( who cares if you don’t smoke?)

*Walk in front of her coming down stairs and behind her going up stairs ( if she slips, in either position you break her fall) Plus that one going up up the stairs pays off with one hell of a view

Assist her when she takes her coat off…

And Assist her in putting back on.. and one little twist I like to do is make sure her hair is out from under the coat

Got any of your own?? Comment away!!

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Author: Geo Gee

I'm a curious one that finds politics, social issues, and diverse progressive solutions interesting. I believe information and education are the most powerful weapons one can arm himself with. Those two dynamics alone open the doors to opportunities. I also subscribe to each one teach one for a better world for all.

1 thought on “Guys Let’s Rejuvenate Chivalry”

  1. Howdy! I really loved your writing style – I’m totally going to recommend this to some of my guy friends, some of them can be a bit of a neanderthal when it comes to wooing an impressing the fairer sex 🙂

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