1. Put your children’s interests first, always
If you have some habits that are not conducive to your good health, continuing to engage in them is not in the best interest of your children.
2. Protect Your Family
This in one of the main responsibilities of being a Dad. Start with safety. Teach them good safety habits, and set a good example by using your seatbelt, school them on respecting fire and water, and the perils of drug and alcohol. Protect them financially by obtaining and maintaining health and dental benefits. Never hand Mom out to dry.
3. Spend Ample Time With Your Children
We all come home from work tired and looking to relax. And no one expects you to head out to the backyard or park for a game of touch football or hide and seek. But you can have dinner together and discuss their day. Or watch a family TV show together. Ask to see or help them with homework. Or just have talk hour. Be sure and tell them about your day (kids find some of the mundane characters and situations you encounter amusing). Make Thursday night Pizza night (Mom will love this too) Have pizza delivered, pop in a movie and enjoy. Even better go out for pizza….if it’s nice weather and the restaurant is close, walk together.
If you are not in the same household, you can still have quality time outside of the prearranged visits.
Call your children daily and ask about their homework, and day. Ask how Mom is doing (if you and Mom have a positive relationship speak directly with mom). The children will see you two getting along and the separation pains won’t be so bad. Talk to Mom about the kids. Seriously.
On weekends, invest as much time as possible with them. Take family excursions to museums and local festivities. Alternate weekends doing activities each individual likes. Give Mom a paid trip to the spa during some of these excursions. Again, if you don’t live in the same household, take them on a weekend that is not pre-arranged…give Mom some me time and you more time with your children.
4. Hug Your Children
Dads shouldn’t be afraid to show affection. Kids need physical contact and not just from their Moms. Snuggle with them, hug them, and love them. Good Dads are notorious for their affectionate bear hugs.
5. Engage in all sorts of activities with your children
Drop the remote and get outside with them.
Do a treasure hunt. Have a pillow fight. Go bike or horseback riding. Walk the dog together and get some ice cream.
Scratch the TV.
Take your child fishing or swimming and watch what happens.
Forget the fellas, take a child to a pro baseball basketball, or football game, and watch their eyes and heart light up.
Do some girl things with the daughter like take them to the salon for a manicure and pedicure.
Take them shopping for a dress, or to an arboretum for a walk and photo session.
Remember, Dad, how you treat your little girls now sets the standard on what they will accept from their mates later in life. Treat them like ladies and princesses.
Do guy things with the boys. Go to a car show, sporting event. Let them get in on washing the cars. Build the dog a house, let them help load up the truck with the things going to good will and ride up front with Dad. Let them help in the garden, shoveling, chopping.
6. Get Involved In Some Mommy Chores
Change diapers, feeding, bathing, fixing a Dad’s breakfast (pancakes with ice cream) do the latter while mom is asleep.
Do mommy chores dad’s style. (That’s the side of Dad’s kid’s love that Mommy doesn’t know about–the daring side). Baby won’t stop crying, Dad will strap him in the car and take him for a ride–baby falls asleep problem solved.
Dads should share the duties of rearing the children every opportunity they get, sharing these types of duties equally if possible. If there is a baby in the house, this is the perfect time to bond with your child. Leap at the chance to do these things, because that’s how you start a life-long close relationship with your child.
7. Read To and With Your Children
This is one of the most important things you can do. Kid’s books are really cool, and it’s great when you can share something this wonderful with your child. Second, you are teaching them one of the most fundamentally important skills (reading) that will pay off dividends for life. And third, you are spending time with them, you’re sitting or lying close together, and you are enjoying each other’s company.
8. Support Mom
Never contradict their Mother in front of them, and definitely don’t fight with her in front of them, and most definitely don’t ever abuse her. How you treat their Mother affects their self-esteem, and the way they will treat themselves and women when they grow up. Be kind and respectful and loving of their Mother. And always work as a team even if you are separated — never contradicting statements of the other in front of the children.
9. Instill Self-esteem.
This is one of the most important things you can do for your children. There is nothing you can do that is better than giving them high self-esteem. You can start by mainly showing them that you value them, by spending time, talking and listening to and with them. Praising things they do, by teaching them how to be competent. Praise and encourage, don’t reprimand and discourage.
10. Teach Them about Finances
Teach your children the value of money. Start when they’re are young. Use the allowance incentive to encourage good work for good rewards. And be an example through your spending and investment actions. Set your child up with a summertime lemonade stand.
11. Be Good To Yourself
You don’t have to give up your entire life when you become a dad. You need to take care of yourself, give yourself some alone time, and some time with your buddies, in order to be a great dad when you’re with your kids. And take care of your health by eating healthy, exercising and getting regular checkups .You can’t take care of your kids if you’re not well, You are also are teaching your kids how to be healthy for life through those actions,
12. Be Respectful and Good To Mom
For parents that are together- you should be good to their Mom even when they’re not looking. Take her to dinner, give her a massage, do chores around the house for her, give her some time alone and babysit while she goes out, show affection to her, give her little surprises. Because when Mom’s happy, the kids are happy. And Dad will be happy too!
Not together- Still be good to their Mother by first and foremost upholding your financial obligations to your child. Single Moms do not have it easy and you can lighten their load dramatically by being a physical part of your children’s life.
Take care of the boy’s haircuts and shopping on your time with them. Pay to have their room renovated; you buy that band instrument for a change. You chaperone that school trip sometimes. Remember to take the kids to get Mom birthday, Mother’s Day, and Christmas gifts and cards. Kick in extras for your children without her having to ask. Let them see you give Mom a card for the occasions as well. It doesn’t imply an attempt at reconciliation, it’s human decency, something you should be teaching your children.
13. Discuss evolution and Religion with your children
Whatever your individual and family religious and evolution convictions are, discuss them with your children. They will need guidance in this area and it should come from you first and foremost.
14. Be a Part of All Extracurricular Activities
School plays, recitals, PTA, cheerleading, sports, band, and chorus. You and mom need to make a unified front in supporting that child by being in attendance together. The first people children seek and need approval from is their parents.
And don’t dare miss graduations and awards ceremonies. If you and Mom’s relationship is strained to the point sitting together is not an option, you still attend and sit across the room from her.
This is just 14 of hundreds of things Dad’s can and should be doing to cultivate bonding relationships with their children and their Mothers.
Doing so will make you more deserving of all the treats available to Dads on Father’s Day.